WIC and the Shutdown

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A lot of people have had to suffer because of the government shutdown. I have seen a lot of people – including my own family – be affected by this ridiculous, ridiculous situation. One of the government programs that is currently not being funded is the Women, Infants, and Children Food and Nutrition program. I don’t care where you fall on the political spectrum or how much you feel that these moms need to stop looking for handouts and get a job so that they can feed their babies or not have babies if they can’t afford to (seriously, let’s have a one-on-one, level headed conversation about that if this reflects your general viewpoint), but the people who suffer most from the lack of funds to this program are poor, innocent babies, most of whom already have the deck stacked against them.

The oh-so-awesome Feminist Hulk (yes, as in green Hulk smash but not at all affiliated with Marvel or She Hulk) is compiling a list of resources for those in need of infant formula, baby food, and lactation resources that they normally would receive through WIC. More information can be found here: WIC AND SHUTDOWN: WHERE TO GET BABY FOOD AND FORMULA. You can help by:

  • Spreading the word about this project
  • Sharing information about any organizations or programs that can assist these women and children in need
  • Donate to a local agency or organization that provides support and resources to women and children in need

Pretending Like This Won’t be So Hard

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Stop Acting Like “Bouncing Back” From Labor is Even Possible from Jezebel.com:

But here in the U.S. of Cray, most of us don’t have the luxury of taking it easy for more than a few days after having a baby. If we do manage to pull off a few weeks or months of actual maternity leave, chances are, it won’t be used for relaxing. It will be used for immediately jumping into caring for your baby with zero help. So unless we can pay someone to hold our hand through it, it’s a race against time to magically become a totally self-sufficient supermom and return to our old selves again, pronto.

Here is the original article that inspired the Jezebel blog post: Why Are America’s Postpartum Practices So Rough on New Mothers? from the Daily Beast.

I wonder

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I admit, I wonder…

…Will I ever get a good night’s sleep again?

…If so, when will that night come?

…Will I be able to get back into shape? Not, will I get back to my pre-baby weight but will I get back to the days when I was physically fit?

…Will I ever be able to casually date or will any romantic pursuits be dogged by an expectation of marriage or be overburdened with the weight of my parenthood?

…Will I be able to get my career back on track or will I need to choose a new professional direction? Will the rest of my life be a financial struggle?

…Will I be able to go back to school and work and be an available, attentive mother?

…Will I be able to do the things I love, go to the places I want to go, see the things I want to see and still give her all of the things I want to give her? 

…Will I be able to refrain from blaming others for my own mistakes?

Happy Belated Father’s Day

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I am a father

This Be The Verse

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It seems inappropriate to have a blog about pregnancy without posting one of my favorite poems. I have tried to keep this blog fairly PG, so beware of strong language ahead. Consider it poetic license.

This Be the Verse
by Philip Larkin

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
      They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
      And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
      By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
      And half at one another’s throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
      It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
      And don’t have any kids yourself.

Movie and a Baby: What to Expect When You’re Expecting

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I did not have high expectations for What to Expect When You’re Expecting. It has the sort of ensemble cast that generally guarantees a formulaic script, non-existent directing, mediocre acting, and very few genuine laughs. Wellll…a lot of the movie feels like every other lackluster ensemble comedy from the past 15 years but there are a few moments of genuine insights and really, Joe Manganiello makes anything better.

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What I found most valuable about the movie was the honest (at heart) portrayal of how every journey to parenthood is different. It displayed a pregnancy from a one-night-stand, a celebrity pregnancy, a general crappy pregnancy, a perfect pregnancy, and an adoption. We saw excited parents, reluctant parents, young parents, an older parent, and even a miscarriage. It was real.

In one of the first baby books I read, Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy, mentioned that you seem to see pregnant women everywhere once you become pregnant. It’s just like when you buy a new car and it suddenly seems like everyone has the same car. I swear I see 10 pregnant women a day, and they are all super thin and super glowy. But pregnancy isn’t all roses for everyone (though it is for some) and though this scene close to the climax of the film didn’t make me laugh-out-loud as much as the writers’ may have hoped it would, I did appreciate it’s honesty. Obviously this is a spoiler:

The Reluctant Mothers

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This is the happy ending we pray for.

Courtesy of PostSecret’s Mother’s Day postcards.